It’s my birthday, a day which I get stupidly excited about every year –for multiple reasons to celebrate. But most importantly, with every year that passes I totally embrace my age and believe that my grown age is better than the last. So, Happy Birthday to Me!
But 2020 is an extra special year for me. Y’all! The trip around this year has been the most intense, difficult, painful, scary, unexpected, and wonderful one yet! It is a year of renewal, a year of learning, a year of enlightenment.
Birthday Celebration Cancelled!
Generally, the vision of a perfect birthday includes cutting a cake with the entire family, having a party with besties at a favourite restaurant, or maybe a professional celebration at the office where everyone is clapping for you.
All the celebrations planned for my birthday have been cancelled. But still, some people found other ways to make this landmark day special for me despite the lockdown.
Indeed, I was really beginning to feel the anxiety and just general malignant feelings I have around my birthday. I am away from my friends, family, and even office colleagues. I was not able to see how my birthday this year is going to be a ‘good’ day.
But this year has been meaningful in many ways… personally, professionally and spiritually. Pointing the way to the future and evolving how I see Relationships, and the word Friendship.
How This Year Became So Special?
In 2019, I was in fear to lose some of my close friends and loved ones. But in 2020, I decided to maintain distance from those who don’t give the value that I deserve.
And, so much of this year has been dedicated to healing from that, getting away from them, and focusing my life on my goals. I am so thankful to be away from temporary people on this birthday! And I am feeling gratitude to the point of tears today.
And I choose to trust that Divine perspective always knows better than I do. I decide to hold tight to the new realization that a tough time can birth some beautiful and unexpected gifts. Truth is none of us know what we may face in any given year, day, or moment. I choose to enjoy this moment. I choose to embrace ordinary fun, like a birthday party with my brother and an online celebration with my stupid friends.
One of the biggest lessons from this whole year is how I have learned to surrender my plans to the Almighty, on a much deeper level.
I had all these grand plans y’all. But things started changing when I came to know one of my best friends is going through the problem due to our friendship and our 3 years of bonding broke down, another good friend of mine decided to end our friendship on a small argument, and my company got shut down.
It felt like I was thrust onto some weird alternative timeline/ reality, and I was watching all this play out to somebody else. Life can change in an instant.
I accepted the circumstances I could not change, and I learned to surrender all that.
All my plans had to wait. I stopped everything, and suddenly being happy became a priority. I made it happen, and for that, I am so thankful.
Such a lot has happened in the last five-month. The blog started as a little project to give me something creative to do.
If someone had told last year that you should leave your best friends or you have to leave your job my reaction would have been “Huh? What?” No”
I was a 9-5 girl with a limited number of friends. But today, neither I am working as 9-5 nor do I have those close people.
It shows that change is something we SHOULD embrace.
Had I not chosen to take the plunge, I wouldn’t now be sitting on my bed writing this blog post after celebrating my birthday with my brother, pizza, and movie. I wouldn’t have connected with many bloggers from across the world. I wouldn’t have appeared on different websites as a blogger or had a feature written about me and my blogging site #Female Insight. I wouldn’t have reconnected with my old school friends and get the most supportive person after my family as my best buddy, who do everything to bring a smile on my face.
I could have stayed in a friendship where I was not happy with the hope that things will be better. But I took a risk and it paid off.
Doing things outside of your comfort zone keeps you feeling alive. Even if it doesn’t work out as per your plan, you will become the better person for it. Life should be about occasionally taking risks.
Now I’m focusing to enrich my life, learning new skills, to help someone else achieve something.
Sharing My Learning!
So if you are reading this article, thank yourself sincerely and keep doing what you’re doing because it does help.
I want you to know that it’s okay if you’re feeling low and sad.
I know that nothing will stop you from feeling this way. But I want you to try. Try to smile and mean it. Be kind to yourself today.
Let’s make this year a little different. Define yourself not by the mistakes you’ve made, but by what you learn from them.
If you are unhappy with where you are, then move.
Remind yourself you’re more than the sum of all the wounds you’ve acquired through the years.
Walk away from situations that make you unhappy.
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Always keep in mind that life isn’t just about crossing off a to-do list. It’s a lot more than that. You won’t suddenly be happy because you landed your dream job, got some new friends. It’s so much more than that.
Be grateful for your accomplishments and work for those you still yearn for. You got this. This year tune out the voice that says you can’t.
I won’t say that my life is perfect, but it was pretty successful for me as far as years go. And I know that I want next year to be even better.
Don’t be so impatient. Life, lessons, love takes time. Stop rushing so much and sit back and enjoy this life.
I always give myself advice, but over a few months, I’ve started listening to it. Achieving the things I have over the past year was not easy (especially all of this personal development, mental calmness, and soul-searching stuff).
It took a lot of hard work for me to get where I am right now and I still know there is so much to be done. It is quite exhausting but, I’m working on it. I’m doing it — pushing along and doing whatever
I can make my life what I want it to be. After all, it’s my life and no one is going to make the next year of it a great one for me.
I hope reading it helps you to realize that you too can make your year an amazing one. You have the power to make your life exactly what you want it to be if you just take a moment to listen to your excellent advice.
It is a beautiful day! And a perfect reminder of how thankful I am for all the beauty I have in my life.
Thank you so much to all my friends and family who wished me a happy birthday. Special thanks to those who tried to make the day special for me. Yes, another long year and another number added to my age, but it is still fantastic to hear from all of you out there. I hope you are all doing well.
It’s either you’ve celebrated your birthday already, or about to celebrate it this year, but you might want to ask yourself some questions: What’s so special about your birthday? What are you actually celebrating? How have you been celebrating your birthdays in the past? How can you make it count?
I’m eagerly waiting for your answer guys, comment below and let me know your thoughts, please.
We all may have a different interpretation of what’s a better life or better self, but most important thing we should be happy and try to be a better version of ourselves with every passing year.
I choose to celebrate how valuable and profoundly beautiful life is. Happy birthday to me! If you read this far, thanks for celebrating with me, friends.;)
Thanks for giving me the best birthday gift I could ask for – your love and support for me mean so much and I am forever grateful to share with you!